Your Perfectionist Child, Part One

A number of months ago, my 17-year-old son said to me, “I’m never going to try to write because I’ll never be as good as Dickens.”

At first I was dismayed. My husband and I have never required him to be perfect in his writing, and through years of cello playing, Lewis has learned that ability develops gradually. What was the source of this refusal to even try?

Perfectionism. It hit me several hours later. Hardwired into many gifted children, it can’t be eradicated, only dealt with—we hope constructively.

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About Rebecca Hein

Author of A Case Of Brilliance, her memoir of her discovery that her two children are profoundly gifted
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