As we have seen, our children’s stubbornness is often the best way for them to express their learning needs, especially at an early age. The most important thing I ever learned from my years-long struggle with my son and his cello playing was that his way was better than mine.
I wanted him to focus in the way that I understood focus—and had taught successfully for twenty years. Yet I only got in his way and created a lot of conflict. It was a wonderful day for both of us when I gave in, and that was when I began to study him rather than to prescribe.