We need to learn to stay out of the way of our children’s learning patterns, even if these patterns don’t make sense to us. When my son wanted to daydream through his cello lessons and practicing, I was sure he couldn’t accomplish anything.
After all, what can you achieve unless you’re paying attention? Yet his was a different kind of attention, and that was what I had to learn.
So perhaps the best way to handle stubborn children is to let them do things their own way. This way may appear chaotic and disorganized, but if we fight them, nothing will get done. By contrast, if we stand aside, eventually they’ll figure out how to be productive in a style that harmonizes with their needs.