Category Archives: Music

The Value of a Meltdown, Part Six

Less than a week after we stopped, Lewis began begging to resume cello lessons. I wasn’t surprised; neither was I all that surprised by my own eagerness to start up again. I sensed that in the depth of my giving-up, … Continue reading

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The Value of a Meltdown, Part Five

For days after discontinuing Lewis’s cello lessons, I was so miserable that I could barely drag myself around the house, and Lewis was, too. We both missed his cello lessons, yet I just didn’t see how to resume them in … Continue reading

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The Value of a Meltdown, Part Four

After too many years of struggle, I finally told Lewis, “I can’t give you cello lessons anymore. You seem unable to use any of my information or advice; therefore there’s no point in continuing.” I don’t recall his reaction except … Continue reading

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The Value of a Meltdown, Part Three

The day arrived when I could no longer tolerate cello lessons in which Lewis pushed away all my advice and teaching. I knew he couldn’t help it; I knew he had to learn independently. Yet this left me wondering just … Continue reading

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The Value of a Meltdown, Part Two

When my son Lewis was about seven, I should have been able to predict my meltdown over his cello lessons. He’d been playing since age two-and-a-half, and even though I’d achieved considerable insight into his learning style, I still felt … Continue reading

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Why So Many Gifted Children Are Stubborn, Part Six

We need to learn to stay out of the way of our children’s learning patterns, even if these patterns don’t make sense to us. When my son wanted to daydream through his cello lessons and practicing, I was sure he … Continue reading

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Fostering Independence of Thought, Part Five

At seventeen, Lewis is a folk musician who enjoys pieces from a variety of cultures and traditions. Certain pieces seem to call forth his best, and when he plays “The Yellow Rose of Texas,” you have to tap your toe, … Continue reading

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Fostering Independence of Thought, Part Three

Your child’s talent and style will probably surface early, as it did with my son Lewis when he was between three and four. Music burst out of him before his cello technique could handle it, and I’ll never forget one … Continue reading

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Your Perfectionist Child, Part Six

If you get into a really serious predicament with your gifted child’s perfectionism where he insists that an activity is not worth doing because he can’t do it well enough—and you can’t argue him out of it—remember that you may … Continue reading

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Your Perfectionist Child, Part Five

When my son stubbornly insists that his cello playing should match the perfect music he hears inside his head, I’m not disturbed until he quits a practice session too soon, stating gloomily, “I’ll never be able to play well enough.” … Continue reading

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